On Midlife Crisis
It’s a process. There’s a great quote comparing midlife to reaching the top of the ladder only to realize that you’ve had it against the wrong wall. It wasn’t so much about changing my outer life; it was a question of changing my inner life and living in the present.
On Being Gay
I have to say that I don’t think gay is the most attractive word; if I were art-directing the creation of a word that would describe homosexuals, I think I might have tried to find anothr one. Gay makes us sound silly and frivolous, which is probably where it came from originally – it was first used in a Cole Porter song in the ’30s – and I think it was probably a bit derogatory, and so it’s not a word I necessarily like, but it’s what I am, whatever.
I love women, I just don’t fall in love with them, but I’m attracted to them. I find their bodies beautiful, and I can relate to them as the pursued, because of course as a gay man you understand what it’s like to be taken – to be an object to your partner – as well as what it’s like to be the aggressor.
On Straight Men
I have a lot of gay friends, but I’d say my closest friends who are male are straight, and I don’t know why that is … maybe because I always get crushes on them.
On Being a Perfectionist
If I lived in a one-room hut, every piece of grass that made the roof would be lined up in the right way, and the hut would have an aesthetic, and there would be two pots, I’m obsessed with perfection to the point that it’s nearly an illnes, and I work really hard to control it because I’m trying to learn to see the perfection in imperfection.
Quotes from Out